Quote of the week

Nov 23, 2014

One of my favourite quotes.

It's a perfect reminder for this week. I'm gonna tick off another item off my Bucket List.

How to come out of the dark...and see the light again.

Nov 22, 2014

About a month ago, a blogger that I had recently connected with told me that I had a great life. She said those exact words! I was blown away. And today, just this morning, a sweet lady in a Facebook group told me 'your views on life are like a breath of fresh air' and 'I hope you never lose that because life can beat you down and it's easy to lose faith.' I was immediately left speechless. The previous comment from the first person came back to me at that moment. I knew then that it was important to share 'my story' or at least bits of it.

You see, life did beat me down and I did lose faith. My views on life were not always positive. And, at one point, actually several points in my life, I relied heavily on antidepressants to get me through the day. I don't speak about these things now because a part of my 'recovery' was to recognize and focus on the great things, the things that bring me joy and happiness. But, I don't believe I'll be any help to you if I do not share what 'my dark' consisted of.

I know what it feels like to hurt deeply and to be faced with uncertainly that is piled so high you can't see a way through. I know what it feels like to go without for long periods of time. I know what it feels like to know that Christmas is coming and you have no money to buy anything for anyone. I know what it feels like to be stuck between a rock and a hard place. I know what it feels like to stay up all night crying yourself to sleep. I know what it feels like to hurt.

When you tell me that I have a great life or that my views on life are a breath of fresh air, you are ultimately right. But know this, it is essentially from my own doing and my own thoughts that I have a great life and that my views are a breath of fresh air. Life didn't help me...in fact, life did everything in it's power to make sure that I didn't have a good life. Life doesn't give a crap about anyone. It was here before you and it will go on after you.

If you want to have a great life, you have to make it. Sitting back, hoping that life will change is a waste of time and will get you no where fast. It took me thirty years to figure that out.

Life can be a dark place, it certainly was for me, but, just like the sun, the light never disappears, it is just hiding. Here's how to find the light again...

1. Pray. When you are at your weakest, you need something greater than yourself to help you through. Whatever or whoever that may be, find a quiet place and talk to Him/Her. For me, this divine being is God and He was my first step out of the dark. I didn't have the strength to pull myself out of the pit that I had fallen into, I needed help that no human being could give me. And, I got it.

2. Talk to someone. Whether it is your best friend, your spouse or a therapist. Talk. Asking for help does not mean that you are weak, it means that you are human.

3. Find your passion. This one is similar to finding something greater than yourself. I firmly believe your passion resides in your soul. It is why you were put on this Earth. Find it, and life won't stand a chance against you. For me, this is blogging.

'Find something you're passionate about and stay tremendously interested in it.' ~ Julia Child. 

4. Surround yourself with positive beings. Children and dogs are my two favourites. They help keep things in perspective. 

5. Put a smile on someone else's face. When you put a smile on someone else's face, you put a smile on yours. 

6. Write out a Bucket List and start ticking things off. It can be something small like 'Try a new food.' or something big like 'Get a tattoo.' Do it. If money is in the way, do something small at first or something that doesn't require any money and then start making plans to accomplish the bigger ones. When I first created my Bucket List, the first thing I scratched off was 'Donate Blood'. It didn't cost me a cent but it was something that I wanted to do and I did it. This seemingly small gesture, brightened my whole week afterward. Big or small, the fact that it is on your Bucket List, means that it is dream of yours. Go after your dreams in a big way! 

7. Never, ever put yourself down. From this very moment, you are to never speak ill of yourself. Ever. You should be your biggest champion and hugest crush. This was hard for me at first, but I found something that I was good at and focused on that. Eventually, I started believing in myself and slowly the love grew. 

8. Exercise. This could be a short walk around your neighbourhood, or a 5 K around the savannah. Get moving. 

9. Spend time in nature. There is a reason why we share our planet with plants and animals. They are necessary to our survival. 

10. Listen.  To your family, your friends, your children. Listen. But most importantly, listen to yourself. If your heart is telling you to do something, do it. If your gut is telling you to say no, say no. If your mind is telling you, 'I need a break', take a break. Learn to listen to yourself and honour your needs. Not your wants. Your needs. There is a difference. 

11. Be nice. If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything. There is a way to critique someone without inviting negativity in. Remember negativity follows negativity. 

Slowly, but surely I incorporated these eleven things into my life. It took time, but eventually, the darkness subsided and the light started peeking in. Notice I didn't mention anything about changing my circumstances. My circumstances weren't covering me in darkness, my thoughts and feelings were. With the right attitude you can learn to accept and/or change your circumstances. Your attitude is key. 

Finding Beauty

Nov 21, 2014


Once again I am linking up with Aimee of This Darling Day for Finding Beauty. Today's pics are from my visits to two different zoos. The first one was taken many years ago in London and the second is from our local zoo in Trinidad. Although these boys could probably bite my head off in seconds, I still think they are two of the most beautiful animals in the world. 

Creative Misfits

Nov 19, 2014

Here's a little 'secret-ish' fact about myself...way before I got into blogging, I was crazy about online forums. At one point, I even created and managed my own forum. It was a huge success too! Forums pretty much introduced me to 'digital social networking' and I fell hard for it.

I managed my own forum for a little over a year and as much as I loved it, there was still that missing puzzle piece. I found said piece in blogging a few years later and suddenly, all was right in my world. Even though I now have this little place that I adore, forums will always have a place in my heart.

Over the years, I parted ways with many of the forums that I once visited daily and shut the door on my own forum in favour of blogging. I decided to keep my membership in only two forums. You can say that they were my favourites. To this day, I still go on ever so often to participate in the threads and to pick up some cute tags.

Creative Misfits (I love that name), is a PSP addict's wonderland. I joined about six years ago when I was trying to get into Photoshop. I realized shortly after, that I was useless at Photoshop and gave up on it. However, the nice folks at Creative Misfits decided to keep me and so I stayed. From time to time, they make me cute graphics. For free! And when it's my birthday, I get tons. Now, how awesome is that?!?

Anyway, even though I am not entirely sure what to do with all these graphics, I can't delete them because they are so cute. See for yourself...

These are my favs...

Who has there own emoticon?
I do!

Yep, I'll forever be a fan...


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